Ragabul wrote:There's been some massive overstep in recent years in redefinition of violence to include things like "gross flirting I'm not into" and I certainly think that some aspects of gender roles are rooted in underlying biology so trying to force 50/50 parity in everything is a monstrous waste of time at best and in some cases borders on cruel. That being said if by "violence against women" you mean *actual* violence against women, I don't see why societal policing of that needs to be tied to traditional gender roles. Most any violent action directed at women would be equally appalling if it was directed at men or children. If that article you read framed it as "it's specifically men's job to do something about this" then your criticism is fair, but I see no issue in demanding that society in general use the powers it possesses to reduce sexual violence even if we've gone full queer and all semblance of gender roles are in shreds.
I've seen 'violence' extended to "any amount of criticism or mockery," but the hyperbolization of language in general is concerning. First noticed it, coincidentally, as my cohorts were going into college and learning about academic language and insisting <x> actually means <x + y>.
To clarify, I'm speaking of a larger sense than a fedora tipping, "I will save you muh ladee," when seeing a domestic spat or a Twitter troll. This new form of essentialism is framed in rejection of the traditional one, but the behavior still manifests. You can twist the concept of protecting the vulnerable to restraining the aggressors, and all you've done is shifted perception while engaging in the same, but less productive, behavior. Same as with shifting from a loose cultural Protestantism to Scientism, same behavior results regardless, but now comes with nihilistic hedonism. There's always a common behavior, and the least destructive manifestation is the one to encourage.
Philosophically, yes, the standard in which violence is applied against anyone should not take into consideration what they are, only what their role in the act is. Intrinsically, there is no possible way for me to treat violence against women and children equal to men. It is built into the foundation of my consciousness, be it natural morals or evolutionary psychology, to treat threats against them as more serious, abstracted out to the greater range of events we experience today. The outcome is to either reduce the size of your "tribe," and become more callous and emotionally withdrawn from society, or, to accept the new essentialism and try to deny your urges while fulfilling them. The vast majority of people will occupy space between these poles, but the trend is towards them, which is the problem. And while the latter is waxing in power, so they seem the "most right," it will never last, because it's a half-concept, you cannot square the circle. Hence certain stereotypes about the loudest "feminist allies."
And yes, if the premise of gender equality is congruent, then regardless of the fact that men are going to the most common and severely violent ones (Though in acts against children, it may be women due to access), there cannot be an onus on them to police each other or themselves, as it violates the premise. But how do you manifest that peaceful, society-wide messaging and enforcement _without_ targeting the greatest offenders specifically?
edit: Randomly came across a very pertinent discussion about this very topic to illustrate my point:
https://www.reddit.com/r/MensLib/commen ... hat_women/There's more to this than just "teach men not to rape." I would certainly not rely on that if I had a daughter. I would certainly give her the full work down on not drinking around people she doesn't know extremely well, not flirting if she doesn't mean it, not walking at night alone in shady places, and so on. That being said "teach men not to rape" seems like modern society 101 stuff.
This was a fun debate when it started cropping up in the 00's. I could not wrap my head around the theory that telling people to consider their personal safety to minimize chances of becoming a victim is equivalent to blaming them for any victimization that occurs. It is unfortunate that bad things happen (as opposed to what?), and I want to see the least amount of bad things within tolerance of a free society. We can both condemn malicious behavior _and_ not condone stupidly risky behavior.
Also, one of the chief problems with relying chiefly on men policing men in a traditional patriarchy is that a massive rule of traditional patriarchy is "hands off the other dude's women." If you must rely on "good" males to protect you from bad ones but all the ones who exercise the reigns of power over you are bad ones, how are you even supposed to notify the good ones? And on what basis do you have any kind of standing to challenge the bad ones anyway?
That's a good question. Ironically, I would advocate swift violence. Or communal policing. If Mr. Hotep is smacking his wife around, then in a strong community, you can have a posse form to beat the stupid from him, or put his wife somewhere safe. Failing to do so could lead to a murder, and everyone suffers for the loss of 2 members. But I don't actually know how it historically played out.
About gender and the military. From what I do know of it (which is admittedly not so much) much of the future of warfare is going to be unmanned or even autonomous machines which means that human activity will consist of a lot of people pushing buttons and planning.
We assume. And for many reasons I won't go into here, this is a horrible change. One I _will_ cite is that it will make atrocities infinitely easier to commit, as the thousands (dozens?) of innocent Middle Eastern people who've been drone-struck attest to.
If your criticism is that squabbling over stupid things like pregnancy flight suits just shows how unserious we are about competing with China and is excellent evidence of our decadence, I agree. But the pregnancy flight suits of themselves are not the issue. *Any* stupidity that distracts from the core focus would be an issue. It's the equivalent of fighting over what color the tiles in the bathroom should be while your house has a cracked foundation and a leaking roof.
Essentially. The practical need for them is not my issue. In any situation where a pregnant woman is needed in combat, the situation has become so dire that extinction of the people is assured. Clearly not the
physical case with us, but we do it anyway. The symbolism speaks for itself.
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Anyway, what I hear the most commonly is teaching guys some thing that "traditional patriarchy" did not and that is not unlawful:
- "No means no" to ban those who insist or pressure
- "Time and place for filrting", with some examples of "always wrong" such as in the street/public transportation, or in the workplace.
Funnily enough, I was working on a project the other day, and had my headphones on listening to random crap on YT. Saw a clip from those anime avatar girl streamers talking about how to get girls.
They said, in effect, "Be confident and persistent, but not a jerk or pushy. And only make an approach when she's not busy, unless she looks like she wants you to." That makes total sense to you and me, because we're grown men who've lived a bit and know how interpersonal relationships generally work. To a young man, presumably not a little Chad if he's watching that stream asking for advice, that is absolute nonsense.
Not even getting into how incredibly selectively true it is. You can't condense the complexity of courtship into concise phrases. As I grew out of the red pill/Manosphere stuff years ago, really started to see the entire area of male/female interaction, and all the theory and industry built up around it, as people fundamentally wanting to be with each other, but the social mechanisms having been fucked up. Life will, uh, always find a way, but it's not a surprise that groups like the incels are increasing in number and sentiment.